Comments on: Help! I’m An Entrepreneur and My Friends Don’t Support Me! http://ysn.com/help-my-friends-dont-support-me/ Tools, inspiration & insights for your life and career. Wed, 01 Sep 2010 13:15:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Sophie http://ysn.com/help-my-friends-dont-support-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2974 Sophie Wed, 28 Apr 2010 15:25:19 +0000 http://blog.ysn.com/?p=334#comment-2974 This was an old posting I came across as I was looking for advice for this online. I am pursuing my doctoral degree in Information Technology. I have had a long hard road to get where I am, and even people I considered long term friends are, as Jen said, "turning weird". I'm being criticized for my life plan and made to feel as if I don't have my priorities in order. My life isn't going badly, as time goes on it appears to be on the up and up, but I keep being told I need to just quit my job because it doesn't pay enough money, but my plan is to build on what I'm doing right now, not just scrap it. I find the higher I go, my friends are falling by the wayside because they don't support me. I see why some people may say, oh she forgot where she came from, she's a sellout because they are bitter because they got kicked to the curb for being non-supportive before someone became successful. This was an old posting I came across as I was looking for advice for this online. I am pursuing my doctoral degree in Information Technology. I have had a long hard road to get where I am, and even people I considered long term friends are, as Jen said, “turning weird”. I’m being criticized for my life plan and made to feel as if I don’t have my priorities in order. My life isn’t going badly, as time goes on it appears to be on the up and up, but I keep being told I need to just quit my job because it doesn’t pay enough money, but my plan is to build on what I’m doing right now, not just scrap it. I find the higher I go, my friends are falling by the wayside because they don’t support me. I see why some people may say, oh she forgot where she came from, she’s a sellout because they are bitter because they got kicked to the curb for being non-supportive before someone became successful.

]]> By: Jen http://ysn.com/help-my-friends-dont-support-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2031 Jen Sat, 05 Dec 2009 20:22:06 +0000 http://blog.ysn.com/?p=334#comment-2031 I have recently become successful in my career and now feel very alone among my friends. Friends I have known for years have disappointed me, they did not attend my business launch party or anything else that I invite them too. I don’t understand it, I thought they would be happy for me, but they are acting like they don’t care. My family have supported me greatly, without them I don’t think I would have been able to start up my own company. I find that people turn weird if you are successful... It's good to see that I'm not alone I have recently become successful in my career and now feel very alone among my friends. Friends I have known for years have disappointed me, they did not attend my business launch party or anything else that I invite them too. I don’t understand it, I thought they would be happy for me, but they are acting like they don’t care. My family have supported me greatly, without them I don’t think I would have been able to start up my own company.

I find that people turn weird if you are successful…

It’s good to see that I’m not alone

]]> By: Enita Okeme http://ysn.com/help-my-friends-dont-support-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1023 Enita Okeme Fri, 28 Aug 2009 17:47:23 +0000 http://blog.ysn.com/?p=334#comment-1023 We need supportive and non-supportive friends and family in our journey of life. Always watch out whether the support is valid or not, using your inner conviction/conscience. Verbal or non-verbal criticism is better than flattery but we can turn such to our advantage with some proper evaluation of why, how and who of the critic. All said, very few make 90% success with happiness attached. The goal should have personal happiness as paramount. We need supportive and non-supportive friends and family in our journey of life. Always watch out whether the support is valid or not, using your inner conviction/conscience. Verbal or non-verbal criticism is better than flattery but we can turn such to our advantage with some proper evaluation of why, how and who of the critic. All said, very few make 90% success with happiness attached. The goal should have personal happiness as paramount.

]]> By: Trevor http://ysn.com/help-my-friends-dont-support-me/comment-page-1/#comment-998 Trevor Mon, 24 Aug 2009 17:22:07 +0000 http://blog.ysn.com/?p=334#comment-998 Words of wisdom, This is very true. I am new to my career but the situations discribed are everything I am facing. The family does not support my new job or anything I tell them about. All my friends look at me like I am crazy when I talk about my future goals of owning my own firm. It used to be that entrepreneurship was the American dream but it seems to me that many young people mearly want to earn a minimal salary. Words of wisdom,

This is very true. I am new to my career but the situations discribed are everything I am facing. The family does not support my new job or anything I tell them about. All my friends look at me like I am crazy when I talk about my future goals of owning my own firm. It used to be that entrepreneurship was the American dream but it seems to me that many young people mearly want to earn a minimal salary.

]]> By: Don. http://ysn.com/help-my-friends-dont-support-me/comment-page-1/#comment-741 Don. Tue, 18 Aug 2009 03:27:10 +0000 http://blog.ysn.com/?p=334#comment-741 After working for two years on a web project I am very disappointed to see the lack of support from my so-called friends. They all want a job if I'm successful -- one even asked to be a board member, but not a one (out of about 100) supported my project even though they all could have easily done so. The only people that helped me were family, for which I am grateful. I now understand why some people leave behind the people they knew before they were successful. After working for two years on a web project I am very disappointed to see the lack of support from my so-called friends. They all want a job if I’m successful — one even asked to be a board member, but not a one (out of about 100) supported my project even though they all could have easily done so. The only people that helped me were family, for which I am grateful.

I now understand why some people leave behind the people they knew before they were successful.

]]> By: Carol Malcolm http://ysn.com/help-my-friends-dont-support-me/comment-page-1/#comment-361 Carol Malcolm Mon, 17 Aug 2009 20:05:00 +0000 http://blog.ysn.com/?p=334#comment-361 Jennifer! What wonderful advise... You know, I started my degree when I was 40, my friends and parents thought it was silly I try to change lanes so late in life- It's funny because I've never considered staying the same forever and had a hard time understanding why those close to me worried about investing in education- It is so true- each of us must find our own path.... some of us will explore many... Find well informed creative souls to encourage you-- but most of all... keep encouraging yourself! Thank you for the inspiration and validation in knowing that it is okay to break a few molds and pre-conceptions... Readers I think those friends and families just worry when our ideas do not match our loved ones expectations of what is "safe"... Entrepreneurship, and/or career changes to some seem SCARY- for others it is natural. Jennifer!

What wonderful advise… You know, I started my degree when I was 40, my friends and parents thought it was silly I try to change lanes so late in life- It’s funny because I’ve never considered staying the same forever and had a hard time understanding why those close to me worried about investing in education-

It is so true- each of us must find our own path…. some of us will explore many… Find well informed creative souls to encourage you– but most of all… keep encouraging yourself!

Thank you for the inspiration and validation in knowing that it is okay to break a few molds and pre-conceptions… Readers I think those friends and families just worry when our ideas do not match our loved ones expectations of what is “safe”… Entrepreneurship, and/or career changes to some seem SCARY- for others it is natural.

]]> By: Brian Rizor http://ysn.com/help-my-friends-dont-support-me/comment-page-1/#comment-359 Brian Rizor Mon, 17 Aug 2009 16:28:38 +0000 http://blog.ysn.com/?p=334#comment-359 Jennifer, Just wanted to say thank you for the post. I am one of those ever struggling entrepreneurs. My passion is about the journey and not just about the end result.It is excitement about new ideas and the desire to learn that have always been my driving force. Why do friends and family never understand that it is about the passion and not the prize. I see myself as a work in progress. They see me as too proud to quit. Thanks again for some helpful tips on how to stay the course. Sincerely , Brian Jennifer,
Just wanted to say thank you for the post. I am
one of those ever struggling entrepreneurs. My passion is about the journey and not just about the end result.It is excitement about new ideas and the desire to learn that have always been my driving force. Why do friends and family never understand that it is about the passion and not the prize. I see myself as a work in progress. They see me as too proud to quit. Thanks again for some helpful tips on how to stay the course.
Sincerely ,
Brian

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